A little ranty rant about post-pregnancy chub. Feel free to tell me to simmer down now.

I should be working out right now.

That phrase is pounding in my head any time I find myself with a minute to spare. Right now the kids are both taking a nap and this hour and a half of pure silence and bliss is pretty much the only opportunity I have to do whateva I wawnt. Do I take a nap? Mop the floor? Write a blog post? Well, if you could see the bags under my eyes and the state of my kitchen floor, you’d get a pretty good idea of which things I’ve been neglecting. You already know this blog hasn’t been feeling the love lately. I’m sorry, blog. You’re my redheaded step child. The thing I usually choose to do during this time is exercise.

Remember how I told you about the postpartum depression thing and how it made me all weird and zombie-mode and like, skinny? Good news! I don’t have that problem this time! I’m not skinny at all! Don’t get me wrong here, I’ve actually been feeling quite amazing the past few weeks and I’m so thankful I’m not going through that awfulness again. It’s been a completely different deal this time. The best word I can use to describe it is relaxed. The same drama is here again, but I just haven’t let it bother me. So yes, I’m enjoying every minute with this little guy and his sweet big sister and I wouldn’t change a thing about my life right now.

EXCEPT!

I have some excess chub. Okay, a lot of excess chub. I’m making an effort to be positive and kind to myself (hug a tree and sing Kumbaya with me) by not using the F word even though that’s how I really feel. For some reason I had it in my head that eating nachos every day of my pregnancy wouldn’t do my body any harm because, ‘Eh. It’s only 50 pounds. I lost that in 3 months before! Neener.”  Umm. Someone hand me my brass knuckles so I can punch skinny me in the head.

I clearly fell into the trap of eating poorly during the last year and am having a harder time getting rid of the extra pounds than I’d like. I know I sound crazy because it’s been 5 weeks since I had Jack. I KNOW. I’m eating healthy, exercising daily, drinking a crap ton of water and still. Nothing’s happeniiiiiiing.

Being relaxed and content is a very fine trade for PPD and I wouldn’t go back there if you gave me all the cute shoes in the world. It’s just a little discouraging, that’s all.

(My chubby ankles wouldn’t look good in those shoes anyway.)

(KIDDING.)

 

25 thoughts on “A little ranty rant about post-pregnancy chub. Feel free to tell me to simmer down now.

  1. It's really, really, really ok. :-) I know exactly how you feel — I ate really badly during my third pregnancy, and it's like now I just don't have any elastic left on me. Anywhere. And it's pretty hard sometimes to still love myself. But you know what? If we're exercising, and drinking water, and (doing our best at) sleeping…we're healthy for NOW, and that's what important.

  2. Remember this…It took you 9 months and a beautiful baby to gain weight, 5 weeks is not going to whisk it away. Focus on being the beautiful mother that you are to your two sweet babies. I'm sure Jack and Maddie don't see you anything less.

  3. Don't worry!!!! Give it some time, I know that takes patience, but just remember that :) Also, when you breastfeed you do lose more weight easily BUT realize too that because you breastfeed you do have to "store" more to feed the baby. Hang in there girl!

  4. It's really, really, really ok. :-) I know exactly how you feel — I ate really badly during my third pregnancy, and it's like now I just don't have any elastic left on me. Anywhere. And it's pretty hard sometimes to still love myself. But you know what? If we're exercising, and drinking water, and (doing our best at) sleeping…we'r​e healthy for NOW, and that's what important.

  5. You will get back to your body someday! I have three beautiful babies 3 and under and we are trying for our fourth. So right now I am just focusing on my babies and eating as healthy as possible. And building up healthy eating habits :D You can do it though! Awesome job choosing working out over a nap!! I can never bring myself to do that!!

  6. I am so very glad that you are much happier this time around. Skinny or not, a sad Morgan is not good. So first and foremost, I’m so thrilled for you that you’ve got so much good going on right now.

    Now about this whole “chub” situation, don’t be in a huge rush! It’ll happen, you are only 5 weeks after having a baby after all. <3

  7. Oh hunny…I know the feeling well! Be kind to yourself though, take a nap! You’ve got nothing but time on your side to lose those last lbs. and seriously, if I can do it, anyone can. I gained 65 pounds during my pregnancy! I think the whole “breastfeeding helps you lose weight” is a joke. Sure, it might help a little but i didn’t lose the bulk of my baby weight until after I stopped breastfeeding.
    Keep up the great work and just enjoy those babies!

  8. Breastfeeding helps you lose weight is definitely a joke! For some of us anyway. I’m still nursing my 18 month old and have fought, tooth and nail, to lose 35 lbs over this entire time. It’s been a nightmare feeling so much hate and frustration over my image in the mirror, seeing the belly chub hang over my jeans….I still have another 25 to go to be anywhere near what I was before. You definitely have some compassion coming from me, it’s hard. We know the reality is that we should just eat healthy and not stress, enjoy our babies, but the world (and our brains!) tell us that we should be as hawt as ever by week 6. Ugh. Hate.it.so.much. Good luck. You are a beautiful mama either way, try to remember that.

  9. Do what you can and let the rest fall into place. Seriously. Don’t push your body. If you’re eating good, exercising when you can, and chasing after those babies – that’s more than enough and your body will respond when it’s ready. I’m sure in another couple of months you will have even more energy as well. Hang in there until then.

  10. Whomever said 9 months up and 9 months down was a LIAR liar, pants on fire. Ugh. With my first pregnancy, I started out having I ate healthy, gained freakin’ 46lbs, and it took me 12 months and a membership to WW to lose it (I was working, so I had to do something to fit back into my suits…I wasn’t buying new ones!).
    You’ll get there. What you NEED to do is relax, enjoy this time, and sleep. Sleep. Because a time WILL come when you will be able to exercise. Don’t sweat it.

  11. An age old Indian trick to remove post preg fat…
    Take a bit of vegetable oil… preferably coconut oil or olive oil or almond oil and apply on your body and massage a bit and take a very very very hot bath….I have tried it….

  12. The panicky feeling of “IT’S NAPTIME, MUST DO EVERYTHING I’VE BEEN PUTTING OFF” is the worst. I like to do pilates while watching soap operas, it makes exercise feel more like a guilty pleasure than a chore :)

  13. ugh, I still have 17 more weeks to go and I’m already ready to be skinny again. Sooooo, yeah. lol! I have a feeling I’ll be in this same boat postpartum. The weight stuck around longer after my 2nd kid than it did with the first too….after I popped out the first it seems like it all just melted off in 3 or 4 months! But yeah, not so much the 2nd time around. And 5 of those pounds decided to claim a permanent spot on my butt. This is the first time I’m legitimately worried about losing the weight afterwards…I HATE exercising so this is gonna be REAL FUN.
    p.s. You look great for just having a kid a month ago, for reals. I know it sucks to be stuck in that in between phase tho. BUT!!! I love hearing that you’re doing better this time around and aren’t stuck in the sads like last time, I hated hearing that :( A happy Morgan is infinitely better than a sad Morgan. Now if you could just get rid of that ever lingering drama…. ;)

  14. I felt the same way after I had my daughter. Everyone told me “oh, breastfeeding will make you lose it so quickly.” Um, no. For me, about two months AFTER I was done breastfeeding, I lost about two inches off of my waist. So all the new work pants? Yep, sold ’em on eBay. Oh, and I breastfed for about 11 months, so that was 11 months of me throwing in the towel.

    You’ll be fine. Just give it some time. :)

  15. Zumba and Weight Watchers really helped my bff Laura lose 60 pounds in less than a year. Just stay positive and keep working on it.

  16. Hey Girl,
    Just take it one day at a time. I have a toddler myself and sometimes it gets crazy in the house with the toys and everything else. Someone recommeded doing Zumba, which I’ve been doing. It’s working for me and I try to also watch what I eat. You’re fine, we all go thru good days and bad days. Just enjoy your little ones and enjoy nap time! I use that time to read your blog or a magazine and enjoy a nice cup of tea. <3

  17. I love how you drink "crap tons" of water! After Maddy was born I would put her in the bjorn and get on the eliptical. WTF WAS WRONG WITH ME? Hormones are crazy… I would never do that with a clear head.

  18. First, I want to say I love your blog and check often for new posts… this is my first time commenting though. So, hi! :) I feel just like you with the f-word, except for me it’s even worse because it’s now been three months since my son was born and I am so struggling to not feel like a fatty-boom-batty and keep a positive body image. But man is it hard.

    Like many of the other commenters, I too really dislike that myth that has been spread that breastfeeding melts off the pounds. Rubbish…. it is now my mission to spread the word to all my friends that that is not true for everyone! I am really trying to lose weight… I work out 5 times a week, eat healthy and nothing comes off. Notta. The last 15 pounds are seriously stuck like glue.

    Anyway, this post and especially the comments are honestly just what I needed to read- I don’t feel so alone. It is so good to hear that I am not the only one struggling to get the weight off while breastfeeding! My mom warned me that this may happen because she experienced the same thing– didn’t lose the last 10 pounds till she weaned me and my siblings.

    Anyway, love the blog!

  19. I know what you mean. I don’t even want to hear those words, “I lost all my weight nursing and I didn’t really do anything.” My 3rd, darling daughter, a blessing and I am grateful. I’m just so exhausted mentally from not losing weight. I’m not even really gaining weight, I’m just not losing anything significant. I try to exercise. Cut down food enough I can still breast feed. Even drank bunch of water too. I’d like to think I will lose it all eventually but it just… It’s frustrating and makes me feel hopeless. I gained about almost as you have my 3rd pregnancy and I was skinny. I even worked out and did more actively but this had proven to be the hardest I’ve ever faced with my post-pregnancy. Nice to know my feelings aren’t alone in this.

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