Frequently Asked Questions

When you’re pregnant, you get asked questions.

Lots of questions.

Are you registered?

Oh, Registry Question, how I despise you.  Those who are close to me know that I have a major issue with registries.  There’s something in me that just feels like it’s a glorified way of begging, and that by having a huge list of items you specifically want, you’re pretty much telling people how to spend their money on you.  I don’t know… I just don’t like them.

However, I did crumble and register for a few necessities, but am only offering that information when people ask me. If you really want to know what to buy, that’s cool, but I promise I’ll be completely thrilled with anything!

You can call me crazy, that’s alright. :)

Do you have any stretch marks?

Remember this little incident?  The one where I totally freaked out over my first stretch mark?  Well thankfully, it’s still my only one!  It’s light, on my left hip, and barely noticeable, which may very well be due to the fact that I can’t see anything below my belly, but still…  Out of sight, out of mind. (Denial? Maybe.)

What is your due date?

November 27 — Thanksgiving Day.  This question never fails to bring on the guilt of my secret wish for Maddie to arrive either a few days early or a few days late… all because of my ridiculous and obsessive love of Thanksgiving dinner.  Who AM I?

When are you taking your maternity leave?

The plan is to work as long as possible and take my leave as close to my due date as I can.  I would much rather spend those 6 weeks cuddling with my new baby girl than on bed rest beforehand, but whatever happens, happens.

Are you planning to breastfeed?

Ah, another one of life’s TERRIFYING questions.  See, I was pumped (sorry, couldn’t resist) about breastfeeding after hearing of those awesome weight-loss benefits.  Losing 60 pounds in 3 months?  Sign a sista up.  But at that first mention of  ‘cracked, bloody nips’, I about passed out.  How do you women DO that!?  The pain, the horror!

After briefly mentioning my fear of breastfeeding, I was met some with awesome feedback (see the comments section of my 31 Weeks post).  Thank you all so much for your encouragement and advice! I’m thinking it’s a little more doable after seeing how many of you have tried and succeeded.  You know, despite the whole possibility of your nipples falling off.  That’s bravery, right there.

What are you craving?

I have some freakish cravings.  In all honesty, I think I might have Pica, which is apparently an iron-deficiency of some sort.  Who in their right mind craves the smell of a car’s air conditioner?  Or Sharpies?  Or would just kill to get her hands on a huge cup of ice to chew on?  That whole ice thing is especially crazy to me because before I was pregnant, I would get the chills and a stomach ache whenever anyone within earshot would chew on cold things like ice or popsicles.  Weiiiiird.

Those are some of the psychotic, non-edible cravings.  Food cravings consist of lemons, green apples, cheese, and sour candy.

How are you feeling?

In general, I’m feeling pretty good.  I’m not too huge or bulky, which is nice.  When people ask me how far along I am and I say “about 8 months”, they’re usually pretty shocked at how small my belly is.

On the other hand, there’s the whole weight gain thing.  And the sciatic nerve thing.  And the baby-kicking-the-snot-out-of-my-left-lung thing.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m very thankful for having a healthy and uncomplicated pregnancy, but it’s still really hard not to complain about some of the symptoms!  Everything I’ve experienced up to this point is perfectly normal and common in pregnancy, so that’s a relief.

One thing that’s been really getting to me lately is just pure excitement.  I can’t wait to meet this girl! Who is she going to look like?  Will she be blessed with her mother’s witty, fabulous personality and amazing taste in shoes? Is she going to be a 6’4″ genius/computer geek like her dad?

Not knowing any of this?  Yeah, it’s driving me completely nuts.

Take a Wild Guess…

As I had mentioned last week, a new friend of mine and fellow mommy-to be, Lisa, gave her readers an opportunity to get in their predictions before she found out if her baby was a boy or a girl (IT’S A GIRL, YAY). Lisa, I hope you don’t mind… I’m going to shamelessly copy your idea. Your post was so great, and I don’t think I could ever be as thorough with all the old wives tales, so I’m using you as a guide. :)

  • It’s still early to tell how active the baby is, considering I’m about 17 weeks, but a genetic specialist has called us in for an early ultrasound, based on family history with heart problems. As far as I can tell, the baby is on track with it’s little flutters. I haven’t felt much, but it’s mostly at night when I’m laying in bed.
  • The weight I have gained has been mostly in my belly, but I’ve noticed a fullness in my cheeks (facial as well as nether-regional), and thighs. It’s very typical of me to put it on in my lower half. I’ve put on 5lbs.
  • Cravings have included the following: In-N-Out cheeseburgers and fries animal-way, lemons, lemonade, cherry slush puppies, sour skittles, fruit in general, Sprite (was never much of a soda drinker), & bean and cheese burritos (even though they make me puke, I still go back for more).
  • Food aversions have included the following: salads, chicken, anything spicy, most asian-related foods (including Dai Bai Dang… my first true love), sesame flavored ANYTHING. Bleh.
  • Lower back pain has never been an issue until the last month or so. It kills.
  • The baby’s heart rate has been in the 160’s when it has been monitored.
  • I had morning sickness from weeks 7 through 12, all throughout the day. Mexican food was the #1 set-off. Since then, certain foods and smells will make me sick to my stomach, including Chipotle tacos and cigarette smoke, but it hasn’t been as bad.
  • Body temperature-wise, I will easily become hot or cold, no matter the time of day — the same as before.
  • Justin has lost weight during this whole thing.
  • My chest has grown from a 36C to a 36D… and quickly approaching the doubles.
  • I was 22 at the time of conception, which was March of 2008. The Chinese Lunar Calendar predicts it will be a boy.
  • My nose looks exactly the same from before. No noticeable widening.
  • I have had increasingly AWFUL skin changes during the pregnancy. Dry, broken out, and pale. My hair is also limp and dry and I hate it and I’m going to cry because it used to be cute.
  • When I tied my wedding ring to a string and held it above my belly, the ring went in clockwise circles.
  • Justin has 3 sisters (that’s a whole lotta estrogen) and I have one brother.
  • An interesting trend that occurs in my family is having a girl first then a boy… it’s happened that way for over 4 generations, and has also shown up in my uncle’s kids. Probably just a funny coincidence, as most of these things are.
  • Justin once had a dream where we had a little boy.
  • I have weird dreams about breastfeeding, giving birth to babies with really huge heads, and also ones that can already talk.

So based on all these lovely bits of TMI, what do you all think? Boy or girl? Mini-me or mini-Justin? Either way, I will be beyond thrilled, but as most of you know I am rooting for a girl. We’ll see on Thursday morning!